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If you have your brothers and sisters, and you remember your younger days with them, you will perhaps know what it means by envious relationship. But, if you are a single child, then you will definitely take jealousy in a literal way. But this envious relationship among siblings is not what actually jealousy is described as. 

Then what is this envy really like? Do you remember you feeling bad when your brother got better marks than yours in terminal examination and was gifted a beautiful instrument box, or your sister got more beautiful dress for last dashain but not you because you couldn't find one of your size, or your mother scolded you for messing up your room while that of your sister, which remained dirty usually, was exceptionally clean today? 

If you read these lines again then you will realize that in each case, the mistakes are yours. You realize it today because you are grown up now, but then? Then how many times did you realize that you are the actual wrong? Then you always grunted and groaned over the situation and over others too. And when it came to your brothers and sisters, you both would raise your voice on top of others when it came to complaining about each other in front of your parents. You hurry home to tell your parents that your sister was sent out of class because she forgot one of her textbooks to school today, or your brother torn his new shirt in a fight with his friends. 

For single child, you may feel lucky that you don't need to share with others and you get everything in whole. But, you instead miss a lot of things, because when they buy a new thing, it means you also have got a new one too. Do you remember you wore your elder sister's t-shirt in your first friends gathering and felt so high? Definitely she didn't allow her dress to you at the beginning, but then you got clever and talked to her in very polite words (else you never do it!!). But she is also not that naive and made you do one of her work before letting you wear that dress. (But yes, she always gave you her dress even though she shouted at the beginning, didn't she?) You always felt high wearing her dress than wearing yours own. Don't lie to me saying that you never crept to your elder sister's dressing room and wore her make-up when she was not at home, or you were never desperate to get that sports jersey of your brother, though he has been wearing it for many years now. And can you tell me how many times in your life you committed you are not going to talk with him or her ever and landed up asking a favor from them?

If your teacher gifted you a pen for standing first in class, you don't have to wait for your parents to return back because your sister or brother will always be there to hear you. They are those wonderful friends with whom you can share even those small incidents like you were the only in your class to be able to answer your teacher's question today. I don't say that I have never hurt my sister in our relationship. I do hurt her, but its not because I hate her but because I am the only one who tells her those things about her which none of her friends say, which she doesn't want to hear, but is actually true

When you have your brothers and sisters, you grow in a better way and you become more social. It is because in a group you get into the habit of sharing as you realize you get more care when you share more. 

Even after knowing all these things, I still hide my brother's favourite music CD when he misplaces my class picnic photos; even though when I know that, he will suspect me at the first place when he does not find his CD in his table. I still do eat fast to get the remote control ahead of my sister so that I don't have to miss the game show in the TV (else if remote is in her hand I must watch music programme as per her wish!!). 

I do all this not only because I love them but also because I really do enjoy this envious relationship.